Somethings Are Worth Fighting For

I've been gone for a minute and a lot has changed...I'm gonna leave it at that...

We all know that some things are worth fighting for...I like to believe that I'm one of them. I feel like if you can fight for your job, your car, your home, or anything else that's important to you then how in the hell can you have too much pride to fight for me?!

Its real sad ladies.... But sometimes it takes the END of a relationship to know how much you were really valued during it. And most of the time you can tell simply by the way he handles the breakup.

Some of you may or may not agree. But I personally have a hard time believing that a man who told me he loved me everyday for over two years could walk away without a FIGHT!

Men are naturally competitive. I've witnessed it. Trust me. Infact if my initials were NFL or NBA I wouldn't even be writing this. Have you ever witness the hunger of an athlete? He will put blood, sweat and tears into a game to get closer to the championship. And when the season is over and he's watching the other team win that very trophy instead of giving up completely on the game, he's out there preparing himself for next season. Giving up is just not an option. But for some reason when it comes to repairing a relationships that same hunger just doesn't exist.

Meanwhile all we want is to know that you still care. Like call just us to make sure we're breathing. Show me that them two years wasn't just you killing time. Its impossible to be in love with someone on Monday and then be completely out of love on Tuesday. Its just not that simple. How could a man who claimed to love a woman so deeply go days, weeks, even months in some cases without any communication. I want to know that your heart is aching. That you feel empty inside...hell I just want to know that you care!!!!!

Yeah the woman can pick up the phone too, but just like tossing a football is a man thing so is making the first move.....time is ticking and what hurts is knowing that after the breakup she wasn't even worth a phone call.....until next time xoxo

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Wow....is all I can say

Walking in the mall minding my business when a friend of mind points out this insulting shirt that says "Once you go Rican your sore for the weekend" like are you serious. Now that's what I call desperate for attention.
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Sometimes Mr. Nice Guy Gets The Girl

Okay soooo sitting in my living room and I'm so excited that Nick @ Nite decided to bring back the classic sitcom "Family Matters". That dag on Steve Urkel was soooo effin clumsy and annoying, but fun to watch.



We all know that Urkel was known for being the geek that was madly in love with a woman who happened to be out of his league (Poor poorLaura)! Physically Urkel did not do it for her. The high waters, squeaky voice, his love for cheese (yuck) and them goofy glasses!!! Can you blame her?



However despite of all his physical flaws Urkel was a nice guy who didn't mean no harm and sincerly loved Laura. He would do anything in his power to show how much he liked her. Even though it usually caused more harm than good lol. But no matter how much he tried Laura just didn't see him in that kind of way. And what I respect about the Steve Urkel category is that he never gave up hope.



Basically my point is sometimes the nice guy really do gets the girl. I know its in our DNA to usually go after the not so nice but yet so cool types but you'll be suprise what the outcome can be. I'm sure Laura and Steve both NEVER thought in a million years that all his patience would finally pay off. But he did. And he won her over.



I mean ladies think about it. Have you ever been around a guy that you swore up and down made your skin crawl??? A guy that really didn't have a chance in hell? Then one day out of no where, you started feeling these weird feelings. This sort of attraction that you never thought was possible.



I always said that a regular guy would love me to death. And even though I don't go for the Mr. Nice guy types those are usually the ones that when they fall in love they fall in love hard.They will treat you like the lady you are. So becareful who you put in the friend category they just might when you over!! And then you'll find your self saying "Did I do that" lol



Just a thought .....until next time I'm such-a-f-ing lady!!!

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Getting My "Beyonce" on!

Nooooo ladies I don't mean doing the "uh oh" dance in some night club. I'm talking about getting this career on a ball. I mean I'm twenty(blank) years old and I still don't feel like I'm close to reaching a career goal.
I mean don't get me wrong I'm no loser. I've work for a nice percentage of my life. Its just that I'm tired of finding jobs that are just for the moment, I'm ready for that career, like a REAL job. A job I can retire from.
I have one career path in mind. And I'm seriously thinking about persuing it. I mean eventually I gotta leave these little average Joe jobs alone.
But until then I sooooo have a job interview tommorow. Wish me luck ladies.
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I MISS YOU

.......Yeah pretty much Nothing more needs to be said!
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Got Love?

If I was to ask you would putting your hand in fire burn, you would be able to tell me yes without any doubt. Right? There would be no doubt in your mind that if you were to stick your hand in that fire that it would burn you. So how come when it comes to the certainty of being in love we are not so sure?

I'm gonna keep it real. I've been doing this relationship thing for two years solid. Not no on and off and then on again, but two years STRAIGHT! I would be liar of the year if I didn't tell you that I didn't have my doubts.

For me it was the whole: how do you know if this is real, how do I know I can stay committed, how do I know if this is NOT a serious case of lust....I mean think about it. What substitutes fake love from the real? Or the difference between love and lust? What is love anyway? Is it the feeling of feeling like you can't live without a certain individual? Or is it just being overwhelmed because you finally find someone who isn't boring? Is love just a phase that eventually dies?

I no longer have my doubts and really feel with all my heart that me and #35 is meant to be (time will tell it always does). I love the feeling of knowing that somebody is really down for me and gives an "F" about my well being. I don't wanna get to detailed but I'm happy :-)

However a lot of women are guilty of not reading between the lines and in result find out the hard way that those weekend dates was nothing more TO HIM but an opportunity to eventually get into your pants (oooh harsh).

Now that I think about it the reason why a lot of people doubt their love (mainly women) is usually from lack of confidence or poor judgement of character.

Whatever it is, its an amazing feeling and hopefully the love you experience is authentic....in the mean time I'm such a f-ing ladyXoXo
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Before #35 There Was Mr.Biggs... (the jerk)

Okay ladies for some reason I'm one of the few people who haven't been a loyal viewer to the hit sitcom 'Sex and The City'.

However I'm still aware of Carrie's obsession with Mr.Biggs. And I think the reason why its has become an obsession to US is because the situation is soooo relatable. Actually I think almost every female has either met or is dealing with a guy who they seem to not be able to win completely over, yet they still refuse to "completely" leave him alone.

My Mr.Biggs came in the format of a street dude who we'll call "Juvenile". And trust me while he played the role as Mr.Biggs I was definitely his Carrie. Its crazy because no matter how many signs came my way (bad signs) I would still continue to try to rescue a "love" that didn't want to be saved. Hoping one day he would take me serious enough to be his partner in crime.

Its weird because I loved him so much, yet I hated him at the same time. Loved him because I so thought he was my type and thought we could be something wonderful but hated him for the lack of....ummm the lack of communication on his part! Luckily I got it together and met a REAL man (#35) I mean let's face it, most of the Carrie and Mr.Biggs scenerios do not end happily ever after.

I mean was I suppose to just wait. I'm sorry but I cannot and will not wait to the day that a man makes up his mind and hope that its in my favor... Nope not me.
Any real woman will eventually move on. No matter how hard it may be. Because in my opinion its in the guy's DNA to be the hunter. Not ours. Chasing a man is just not cute. I learned that "Juvenile" was just that, juvenile.

So what that said, characters like Mr.Biggs are fun to watch on tv. But in the real world can be dangerous creatures. All the calling, the dates, the night caps, the cuddling just to still remain in square one....uuuuuuuh no I don't think so!!!

Just some thoughts
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